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Advice If You Regret Not Joining The Military – Jocko Willink

July 29, 2019

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  • Reply Its All Good Games July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I don't so much regret not joining military as sad that there's nothing worth fighting for.
    Iraq never had WMD's. im no sheep to die for some corrupt suit.

  • Reply Jflowization July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    i recently tried to join the Canadian Forces last year, i managed to get to Bootcamp, but i left after the 3rd week, the reasons why was because i just wasn’t ready yet, and i chose a Job that i thought would be simple but i knew deep down that wasn’t what i wanted and my grandmother developed stage 2 leukima, i regret that to this day that i didn’t study up on it more and that i didn’t check into what i could do in the Military, i’ve been debating joining the reserves, but currently right now i’m looking to get myself in better physical shape and to get my mind mentally in check, i want to make sure that the best i can be before i take a huge step like that again.

  • Reply A T July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    Deployment doesnt scare me so much, other than the obv possiblity of danger. I am worried that being a weekend warrior puts me at a disadvantage when the time comes. the enemy isnt wokring a civilian job, they are ready and willing to kill all day. i just feel i should do the same if we are going to engae in combat.

  • Reply rkvktmen July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    Does anyone have any advice for those who can't join (medically unfit etc.)?

  • Reply J July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    There were army recruiters who came to my school when I was in high school and talked about their experience. I didn't know what I wanted back then and my family said, don't go. I'm going to die. A few years later I met a woman who was in the army and she said her friend was raped and other horror stories that happened. So I made up my mind I didn't want to join. Then at 29 I had a feeling I just need to find out. I took a test and did so bad. He told me just work on it and pass then I can join. I didn't take the time. But now I have a 8 yr old and I'm going to be 40 next month. It just feels like an itch I can't scratch. A feeling I can't get rid of. Yes there's other options out there with volunteer fire fighters and police, but I really wish I joined

  • Reply Cojo French July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I'm 21 tried to get into the Royal Navy last year as my brother was in the Navy when I was younger and it turned his life around. Passed all the mental and fitness tests, interview everything then pulled out at the last second after getting my date for training out of fear for the future. It's eating away at me I feel like such a disappointment to my mum and brother. I want to try again in the next couple of years possibly with the Army because I really dont know if I can live with that sense of regret. It truly does feel like a calling.

  • Reply JamesO19991 July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I’m still wondering why David goggins was never on jocko podcast

  • Reply Loblolly0228 Gaming July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I’m planning to go through college and if I don’t find something I love then I’m going into the Army or law enforcement. I want to be airborne someday and that’s something I’ve wanted for a long time so I’ll be damned if I don’t get it. Only thing I gotta get done now is become physically fit enough, my goal is to be able to meet Ranger minimums even if I don’t go that route.

  • Reply awood9214 July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    Age is just a number. If there's something you want to do just do it. It's better to do it later than never at all.

  • Reply SilverPhenom July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I feel this guy but my boat is different. I have a medical condition that lowers my life expectancy to about 45. It sucks because physically I am really capable and tried to get into the military in any way possible and talked with all branches but to no avail (and I even did ROTC because it is the closest thing to learning about the military and doing some casual stuff within it without having the pass a medical test). It is weird because you move on but its this void of desire that can't be filled and you just want to do it. It just kind of kills me that the one thing I want to do with my short life is to serve even if it is for a few years.

  • Reply DK 1692 July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I can identify with this; at 18 I joined the Irish Guards up at ITC Catterick. I'd had a difficult childhood and struggled with anxiety, as such I lasted a couple of months then took Discharge As of Right. I then trained as a psychiatric nurse which I continue to do until this day. In 2017 I rejoined the Army Reserve; after some issues with physical injuries I managed to complete Phase One Alpha and went to Phase Two Bravo last year. Unfortunately, anxiety struck again and halfway through I left, this time for good. Since then I've struggled with feelings of shame and a ton of self-loathing. I'd looked at the police but as I'm now a senior nurse, married with two children, I can't afford to retrain without causing us significant financial hardship. The Special Constabulary is out as it's incompatible with work, so daily I now struggle with these feelings, feeling like a massive coward and a letdown to those who stayed in. Hope the man in the video finds his way, I wish him the very best of luck.

  • Reply s o July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    For the cops, firefighters, EMTs, etc……your service is on 100% on par with military service. Military service might get a little more recognition, but the grind of being out there every day for twenty or thirty years is an awesome service to your fellow Americans. I’m a vet and my hat is off to you. Thank you for your service.

  • Reply Midwest Bodybuilding July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I’m 30 and am working on my application for joining the Army NG. They have Airborne Infantry, and SF. Yeah I’m leaving behind a 75k a year job but only for about 6-7 months. I’m protected by federal law (meaning my company can’t fire me or replace me, I keep my seniority and pay raises) For me I would regret not going more than giving up some money and 7 months with my family.

  • Reply Ken S. July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    Marine for 5 years from 19 to 24, finishing my engineering degree, worked collectively in that field for 10 years, played in metal bands in 3 different countries, worked for NASA, did 5 internships back to back in 2 years while full time in school, been a machinist, worked in the biomedical field, been a skateboarder the whole time, been with a bunch of beautiful women, loved, lost, made money, lost money, started doing a bit of stand up comedy, accepted a federal job as an engineer with navair, starting my engineering masters degree in 4 months, no kids no ex wives no bullshit no STDs or health issues, no fake friends that I keep around.
    I plan on getting in the best shape of my life and doing the guard special forces for 6 years, I have no regrets save one….. I chose to retract my application to the naval academy for a girl when I was 17 and when I was sifting through my old shit in the garage I found a folder they gave me when I attended their summer visitation camp at Annapolis… on the folder was a quote that read something like dont look back wishing you had or something like that….
    I don't even know what happened to that broad but I know this, I made a promise to myself that i would never put anything or anyone before my life and my path…. one life. Go fuckin nuts, and when it fades to black, I hope the crowd goes fucking wild

  • Reply Joey Boulard July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    Company I work for tops off your deployment pay to your regular salary. Very nice benefit for those guys. 👌

  • Reply Jamie Phillips July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I can completely relate. I spent 10 years in the Army Guard and deployed to Afghanistan. My son took it very hard so I promised him I would never deploy again. I ETS'd but damn I miss it. I also always wanted to be a cop. I was an MP and conducted law enforcement as well as worked as a civilian cop for the army but I always wanted to be an officer in a larger city. So many agencies are hurting right now and I'm seriously considering leaving my cush and well paying federal contract security job once I finish my degree but my girlfriend hates the idea. She isnt my sons mother but the problem is she is fucking amazing and Id hate to lose a girl like her. Seriously, she is one in a million. Sigh. At least I have Jiu jitsu lol. Need to figure out what I'm gonna do. Cant do the military anymore so I'm thinking swat and eventually an instructor at the academtly so I can have somewhat regular hours.

  • Reply Pam Harasyn July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    This is what I'm struggling with. I'm 32 now and feel that I haven't done anything I wanted out of the need to protect my mom. She's got crippling anxiety and depression and sometimes bipolar symptoms. And I actually think we're not closer BECAUSE she discouraged me from anything slightly dangerous.

    But I can't tell her this. It's horrible.

  • Reply Alan sikes July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    It doesn't matter We have not been fighting for freedom in quite a while.Retired Army.

  • Reply eltoro fitness July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    going to boot camp in a week……i signed up for reserves to finish college by 24 and then serve active duty, but i want to leave home and fight in infantry. im 21 currently i like getting the bachelors first simply because i can be hired by the police easier and fbi and marshals but i want to deploy and perhaps try out spec ops….. i have no idea im lost. B4 this mma was a passion of mine for 8 years but i stopped when i tryed to turn pro at 19. So im stuck here typing.

  • Reply Para Bellum July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    At 34, even with chronic back pain from a double herniated disc, I'd consider at least trying to join the reserves. I know some SF guys and knowing they've led that interesting life always makes me deeply regret being too lazy and out of shape when I was young enough to join. I feel that I may have been a good marine had I seriously applied myself back then. In my country the maximum age to apply for the reserves is 55. Protecting home soil part time could potentially save me some counseling to deal with the regret instead.

  • Reply WestsidePatriot July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    If it's what you want to then do it but don't let your identity get wrapped up in your service and remember what you actually serve for.

  • Reply jay w July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    This is something that haunts me every fucking day i feel i should b there eats me up so bad brings me to tears

  • Reply CTW Alan July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I volunteered at age 19. I knew I had bad eye which I was born with. I passed the written test with high 90s. Passed the med however when it came to the eye test. I covered my bad eye first and tried to memorize the eye chart. LOL Then tried to repeat it back. However I missed half a line half way down the chart. The doctor spotted it and put me on the machine where there is no cheating the system. I was told by the Captain they would love to have me but couldn't enlist me. One of the saddest days of my life. Anyways moved on the next day after licking my emotions wounds and got a job. Life goes on, so should we all. Get it.

  • Reply The Dude July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    Join the reserves…better yet, JOIN THE AIR GUARD

  • Reply mikeyb byekim July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    1:55 fed protects from being fired but company still can make some other excuse.

  • Reply Stephen Mejia July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    Feel the same way, never enlisted in the Marines after high school and I’m 25 now, doing well for myself but I can’t shake the itch to enlist however I wouldn’t want to do the reserves, I’d want to go active duty.

  • Reply Kristen Frigg Skapari July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I'm too old to join. I regret not joining. My aunt told me to join after 9/11 and I didn't understand her moral pressure for me to do it, especially since she didn't during Vietnam. But now I really really regret not joining. It sometimes keeps me up some nights. But I was very different woman back then. I know a lot of female veterans have post traumatic stress from sexual assault. A part of me thinks it would have been different for me for some reason. I just have a lot of regrets and don't know how to stand before veterans knowing I didn't go through what they went through.

  • Reply Mike R July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I'm feeling like this guy at 26 years old. I also have a degree but definitely need to lose some weight first.

  • Reply josephpa05 July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    26 to old?

  • Reply thebenforever July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I know this feeling. Ended up enlisting at 32. It will eat away at you and you will become a broken record to your friends and family unless you address it. No amount of financial stability will "completely" erase the feeling that you did not do what you believed you should have done.

  • Reply apachedisco July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I live in America, i am healthy, i have shelter, I have loved ones. 'Merica

  • Reply Erik July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    Legit. My wife was and is super supportive. I’m extremely lucky she’s allowing me to do all of this.

  • Reply Ultraspontane July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I regret not sacrificing my life so Israel can genocide the world.

  • Reply anna d'astoli July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    Great advice Jocko. Couldn't agree more…get it done as you say.

  • Reply Volvox July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I wish Jocko was your President, USA 🙁

  • Reply Kemy Brown July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    So I have a question I'm 32 successful within my career right now but have the same calling to join the Air force. I'll be graduating with my degree next year January, am i crazy for going to the Airforce when I graduate and turn 34 ?

  • Reply Shane Ashpole July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I'm 23 and finally committed to enlisting in the marine corps because I didn't want to live with that regret in life. I get sworn in next Monday and then ship out two weeks after that to boot camp.

  • Reply Michael Garrido July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    Same guy. Joined at 31, stationed in Hawaii, combat engineer, sappers in!!! Don't regret it at all!

  • Reply Ender Gomez July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    My birthday is Oct. 17, 1983… I wanna hear from others who are thinking about joining. Who are in the New Orleans area. let's get togethor and train. I'm seriously contemplating joining. Either the Army, National Guard, or the Reserves…

  • Reply Pacific Wonderland July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    My biggest regret was not going into the reserves when I was done with active duty..

  • Reply Lou Dogg July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    What if you're too old to join the reserves and still regret not joining?

  • Reply Tyler Moody July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    I wanted to enlist in the Marine Corps since I was 4 yrs old but I was turned down for medical shit. I was to a Navy requeter, Army and sadly Air Force. I shouldn't have told them I had a medical condition. My family is full of Jarheads. I Navy Seal. And a retired Delta Force commander. It sucks I was the only man in my family to not serve in the military.

  • Reply James G July 29, 2019 at 8:35 am

    don't you still have to be in the reserves after being a Navy Seal? or any branch after you get out full time? I always thought ———- what Jocko said when he was Deployed his wife had take care of all the different things and the funerals WOW never thought of that that takes more strength —- More than physical strength Congrats to all the wife's and Husbands that are by them self when Mom or Dad is away.

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